Joysticks, they’re a joy
To all of that I say, porn is not the problem. Just because someone likes looking at naked bodies exchanging bodily fluids does not make him a pervert, disrespectful, an infidel, disinterested in his lover or dissatisfied with his lover. It makes him human. It’s about fantasy, imagination, desire, lust. And what, please tell me, is wrong with that? Most men (women, too) can separate fantasy from reality. Do you think Jenna Jameson is going to fly off the screen and do to him what she’s doing onscreen? Not a chance, and he doesn’t think so, either. And if you believe he thinks so … either you’re sorely underestimating his intelligence or you need to ask yourself, what in the world is a smart gal like you doing with a fool like him?
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If you accidentally find porn on his computer, well, were you snooping around in places you shouldn’t? If so, that’s just as dishonest as him hiding it.
When you watch porn (and you should, especially if you have some sort of judgment about it—there’s no other way to understand it), what exactly is it that you object to? Are you projecting your own insecurities or messages of shame from your childhood onto it?
If you truly believe that you can’t compete with a porn star, do you just stop at that or do you ask yourself, what can I do to make sex more exciting for me and my partner; how can I increase my pleasure and his?
If you’re the kind of woman who thinks your partner’s watching porn because there’s something wrong with you, do you also think there’s something wrong with your cooking if he likes to eat out or that there’s something wrong with your DVD/TV set-up if he likes to go to the movies or that there’s something wrong with your driving if he wants to drive? Is it always about you?
Link to entire article: http://www.divinecaroline.com/article/22081/39208
But there’s a reason I refuse, and it’s not forever. As a vague nod to the traditionalism I typically reject (yet continue to idealize), I’m saving my back-end virginity until marriage. As an easily bored single girl, I’ve engaged in an extensive laundry list of sexual behaviors, but have never allowed a cock in my ass. At some point early on, I decided I wanted to reserve one sexual niche exclusively for my future husband. And I certainly can’t offer him my virginity, my first threesome, or my first time fucking in a rooftop hotel pool at dawn. Anal sex is something I’ve flirted with, considered, but never done, all in the name of keeping something, as they say, “sacred.”
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“My distaste is isolated, applied only to me, and only for now. I thrilled to discover that a Rory Gilmore-ish girlfriend of mine is a hound for ass sex. And, penis-insertion aside, I’m not ignorant of the rewards — I’ve warmly welcomed fingers and tongues into the fray. I’m curious, of course, about the feeling of anal sex. The anticipation is tremendous, in fact.”
Japanese girls are so great, cast in plastic.
http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/24991060 is a great article about sex and getting older, check it out.
